10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology


Julie Schwartz Gottman (Author), John M. Gottman (Author)

With a Foreword by Daniel J. Siegel

Overview | Contents

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work.

In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include:

• You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”?
• How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together?
• Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe?
• What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you?
• How can you make your work research-based?

No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

Book Details

  • Hardcover
  • October 2015
  • ISBN 978-0-393-70835-6
  • 5.9 × 8.6 in / 288 pages
  • Sales Territory: Worldwide

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