10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology


Julie Schwartz Gottman (Author), John M. Gottman (Author)

With a Foreword by Daniel J. Siegel

Overview | Contents

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work.

In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include:

• You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”?
• How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together?
• Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe?
• What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you?
• How can you make your work research-based?

No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

Book Details

  • Hardcover
  • October 2015
  • ISBN 978-0-393-70835-6
  • 5.9 × 8.6 in / 288 pages
  • Sales Territory: Worldwide

    Endorsements & Reviews

    “If you enjoy seeing the Gottmans as presenters, you will love their most recent book, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy. Extraordinary therapists and gifted researchers, it’s as if you can hear the authors’ voices emanate from the text. . . . [E]asy to read, while also providing useful concepts and a formula that works. . . . Of course, I recommend this book. It can be used as a resource guide, as well as one that offers immediate tools for working with clients. The research-based wisdom will no doubt become standardized knowledge because of how applicable it is for clinical work.” — The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter

    “[L]ike their previous books, 10 Principles attempts to break down a complex issue into something more tangible. . . . [T]he heart of this text focuses on well-crafted principles for effective therapy, and includes scientific research, assessments, exercises, and statistics. . . . Few things are more fascinating than when therapy and scientific research come together, which is precisely why any work produced by John or Julie Gottman makes for an interesting read.” — PsychCentral

    “Known for their iconic research on couples, their prolific writings, and the development of a couples therapy informed by their research findings, Julie and John Gottman, in this well written and comprehensive book, gift their clinical wisdom and processes to couples therapists. Filled with clinical insight, coherent theory, case illustrations, various data gathering forms, and a treatment plan, this book should increase the competence and confidence of any clinician who is wise enough to read it.” — Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and authors of Getting the Love You Want and Making Marriage Simple

    “In 10 principles, this book lays out in an eminently readable and accessible way the basic steps of effective couple therapy. It is a great contribution to the field and will guide numerous therapists onto the path of successful intervention.” — Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight and Love Sense; Founding Director of The International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy

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